• Ankush Pare

Speaking: Fear & Anxiety

Speaking is the most important and nonavoidable thing in our life. Yes, we can communicate without speaking by our body language but we can not avoid it completely. When we want to speak in public, give a presentation, have to face an interview, or perform on stage, we often face fear or anxiety about all these things. Today we are going to discuss FEAR AND ANXIETY IN SPEAKING.

Anxiety And Fear

If you want to give a presentation, meeting new people, being on a job interview, answering a question in class, want to talk on stage, or have to speak with seniors, and have you ever feel the symptoms like "sweating of palm, shaky voice, difficulty in breathing, a dry throat, or maybe a sudden memory loss. These all we can sum up as anxiety while speaking."

What is the true meaning of fear?

Fear is defined as being afraid of someone or something. ... A feeling of anxiety and agitation caused by the presence or nearness of danger, evil, pain, etc.; timidity; dread; terror; fright; apprehension.

Now you may ask if anxiety or fear while speaking can cause trouble, yes it can. Otherwise, why would you feel chronic symptoms such as headache, fatigue, unnecessary blushing, dizziness, suddenly increased heartbeats, or a disturbed stomach. And you know you are getting disturbed while speaking or while giving a presentation. This is all we need to work on.

Yes I know I am saying too much and you are already gone through it. Now my term is to tell you some tricks and techniques to overcome speaking anxiety. Ammmm Yes we can part it up in the following

1. Challenge specific situations.

2. Get organized.

3. Know your topic.

4. Relax your breathing.

5. Focus on your content and not on your audience.

6. Focus a little bit on body language.

Challenge Specific Situations

We all Face some situations in life where we face more difficulties while talking, purchasing something, or simply when we talk with a stranger or maybe when we try to talk with the person of the opposite gender as we are. These all are some specific situations where we know are going to face anxiety and may up to that extent where we can not utter a single word.

What if we are going to fear all of our life.? No, my Dear Friends, no more fear now. Try to face some situation where you have all negative or bad memories. Try to convert your bad memories to challenging ones. Up to when you are going to think about the result of that situation, try to face it my dear, no one is going to insult you if you are trying your best, no one is making fun of you, you just have to try it.

When you face a situation about which you already have some imagination, yeah I know that is all because of your previous experiences but until and unless you are not going to face it, nothing will happen. Challenge it and face it.

Get Organized

When you are planning to give a presentation, going to talk on stage or maybe simply you met with a stranger or with your senior in a mall and have to talk there. Tell me what you gonna do.? I know by thinking about all of these situations you are already feeling anxious and nervous. But a little bit of planning and organization habits can make a huge difference in it.

Always be ready and prepared for any kind of situation in life. No, I'm not talking about the material you're going to present in front of anyone or going for a stage performance. Here I'm talking about the organization of mind, habits, and some general things like the topic you're going to talk about. Always be prepared and organized, this will boost your confidence and you will feel less anxious and nervous.

Know Your Topic